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13th-Nov-2009 12:52 am
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'Wrap Your Arms Around Me' by Barenaked Ladies really shouldn't be your wedding song, youtube commenter. The song's quite clearly about domestic abuse. It's one of my all-time favourite songs, I listen to it frequently, but it's clearly about an unhappy, violent relationship.

Do people not listen to lyrics or think about their implications when choosing wedding songs?
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12th-Nov-2009 03:27 pm (UTC)

You run in to that all the time, like Sting's reaction to people declaring "I'll Be Watching You" to be "their song."

Lyle Lovett gave a concert on A&E where people could call in/e-mail or make requests from the audience. A very nice seeming couple on the front row asked for "Nobody knows me like my baby" as it was "their song" and they'd danced to it at their wedding.

Lovett looked at them for a moment and then said "all right, for the lovely couple in the front row, a song about cheating on your wife in Mexico" and played it.

12th-Nov-2009 03:29 pm (UTC)
I read about this a while ago and it seemed like Sting wasn't all that aware his song was way creepy until a year or so had passed after doing it. So --- at least in that case it wasn't originally intended to be disturbing.

People are silly.
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12th-Nov-2009 03:30 pm (UTC)
HAH!

True.
12th-Nov-2009 03:43 pm (UTC)
Kit says it's wrong that I quite like Billy Idol's "White Wedding" as a wedding-y song (not a first dance song - we picked Look Around You's "Little Mouse" as that aages ago... Though there was some discussion on picking one that would be easier to dance to since ;-) ) - "It's a nice day for a - white weddding!" what could be more appropriate? ;-)
12th-Nov-2009 03:55 pm (UTC)
:p

Oh dear, Miri.
12th-Nov-2009 03:47 pm (UTC)
That's nothing. I've seen a girl singing Whitney Houston's I will always love you to her fiancé at their engagement party.

Fail!
12th-Nov-2009 03:55 pm (UTC)
Wow. WOW.
12th-Nov-2009 03:56 pm (UTC)
Hell, Ronald Regan wanted to use "Born in the USA" by Springsteen as his re-election theme back in the day. You really need to listen to more than the chorus folks.
12th-Nov-2009 04:02 pm (UTC)
Major fail. Major, major fail.

Yes, you do need to listen to more than the chorus, or even just listen to the chorus.

The chorus of 'Wrap Your Arms Around Me' goes "I wrap my hands around your neck, you wrap your arms around me".

Now, could it mean around the back of the neck, in a dance-position? Only if you never listened to the music, the rest of the lyric, the way it's sung --- perhaps. The immediate association I would think is a strangle-hold. Or maybe that's just my mind.
12th-Nov-2009 04:24 pm (UTC)
Considering how often I see "How To Save A Life" used in vids trying to show off happy couples, I completely agree. You'd think people would at least listen to the lyrics when you're vidding!

(For the record, according to The Fray, the song is about a father trying to save his son from drug addiction, but I know people who interpret it as a break up song as well, which is fair enough, but it's not a happy go lucky song!)
12th-Nov-2009 04:35 pm (UTC)
Oh man, people clearly never listen to the music either.
12th-Nov-2009 04:24 pm (UTC)
The one that always boggled my mind was the popularity of "Achy Breaky Heart." "Cheat on me and hurt my widdle feelings and I'll kill you."

Excuse me? To me, that's a good reason to boycott a musician.
12th-Nov-2009 04:32 pm (UTC)
I've always interpreted the lyric as being that the man's heart would blow up and kill him, not that the dude would kill anyone else.
12th-Nov-2009 05:39 pm (UTC)
Which is why C and I will be dancing to Tom Lehrer's Masochism Tango at our wedding!

(Though our song is actually Georgio Moroder's "Electric Dreams", which has probably not the most apt lyrics in the world...)
12th-Nov-2009 10:09 pm (UTC)
I have no problem with knowingly choosing something wholly incongruent with the day. If I ever get married, I'll probably try to do that too. Tom Lehrer's 'Poisoning Pigeon's in the Park'? Check. Tripod's 'Take a Walk in the Park'? Check. Weird Al's 'I wanna b ur lover'? Double check. But this song is so depressing, and so disturbing. It would be like having your first dance to 'He hit me and it felt like a kiss.'

Edited at 2009-11-12 10:19 pm (UTC)
12th-Nov-2009 05:51 pm (UTC)
Judging by how notorious I Will Always Love You and My Heart Will Go On are for being overused as wedding songs, I'd say people probably don't listen to the lyrics much (incidentally, I only recently heard the words "she's a real pussywagon" and "the chicks'll cream for Greased Lightning" in Grease. Must listen to the entire soundtrack more thoroughly soon).
12th-Nov-2009 10:15 pm (UTC)
They clearly don't.

I went off of Grease when I was eleven because of that very fact. I was a little prude ;)
12th-Nov-2009 08:18 pm (UTC)
There are so many "love" songs that have Unfortunate Implications if you think about them for a moment. I especially like ones from the "good old" allegedly more "innocent" days.
Try this baby on for size:

I'm walking behind you
On your wedding day
And I'll hear you promise
To love and obey
Though you may forget me
You're still on my mind
Look over your shoulder
I'm walking behind
12th-Nov-2009 10:16 pm (UTC)
That ubiquitous 'look over your shoulder' phrase turns up in a few songs, but my favourite is the unintentionally creepy "I'll be there". Oh man.
13th-Nov-2009 06:27 am (UTC)
My brother's wedding song was "Please release me" - and no, I'm not pulling your leg. %-} Oddly enough, he and his wife are still married 18 years later.

(Maybe someone should compile a list of songs which shouldn't be wedding songs? I'll start the ball rolling with "It's my party (and I'll cry if I want to). Any more suggestions?)
13th-Nov-2009 07:49 am (UTC)
... but, why? :D This is me, being utterly incredulous.

"He Hit Me, and it Felt Like a Kiss" has to be a contender.
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